Feeling stuck in our lives is not a nice feeling. If you are a driver you can appreciate this scenario, and if you are not a driver I am sure you will get the picture. The feeling of being stuck is a bit like sitting in a car knowing you want to go forward to get somewhere, your foot is on the pedal and the car’s engine is using a lot of power, but it’s not going anywhere. This is until you realise that you need to take the handbrake off and slip it into gear, such a good feeling when you recognise why, and take off.
There are many reasons to feeling a bit ‘stuck’ in life and sometimes we have to stop and take stock of what is making us feel this way and how we could take the right steps to get going with some motion in our lives. Sometimes deep down inside we may feel a fear towards change, I wonder if that is the fear of change or the wanting to stay in our comfort zone.
There is a saying that says, ‘To have the things you have never had, you have to do the things you have never done’! This would mean that in order, to achieve the things that you want to achieve, you need to understand what you are not doing and start to change the way you do things, and the change will come. This could be changing certain habits, attitudes, or an overall change of mindset.
What is Behavioural Change?
Behavioural Change is a change that is a cognitive behaviour, and Change is about making a conscious decision to change one’s thinking and behaviour in order to receive a positive result.
How does change affect you?
Making a conscious decision to change a certain behaviour and achieving it, gives you self confidence in knowing that it was you who did this, and a sense of purpose. e.g; Stopped smoking result – more money, handle stress better, made your own decision.
Change leads to progression
Change helps you to focus on the good things, which also helps you move on from the past.
Finding out what you need to change.
- Write down a list of habits that you believe you need to change to achieve your personal goal.
- Choose about 3 out of the list that you would prioritise as important to you.
- Work out, what behavioural habits that you do, to keep this unprofitable state going that you will need to change.
- What do I need to do to strengthen my new good habit?
Remember, a habit takes 3 weeks to make, and 3 weeks to break.